What's Your Pleasure?

Alluring:

Powerfully and mysteriously attractive or fascinating; seductive.

Amazon (position):

An advanced sex position that's a combo between missionary and cowgirl. The bottom partner lies down on their back with their knees bent up in the air, and the top partner (usually the woman) get between their legs and slowly lowers down onto their partner. Both parties are intertwined, and the top partner uses their knees and hands for balance.

Anal sex:

Sex in which the anus is penetrated or stimulated with a penis, finger or a sex toy.

Annalingus:

[Rimming or Rim Job] Oral erotic stimulation of the anus.

Anorgasmia:

Inability to have an orgasm or difficulty in having an orgasm.

Anus:

Opening from the rectum [butt hole] from which solid waste [poop] leaves the body.

Aphrodisiac:

Foods, scents, music, drinks, and behaviors, which can increase libido or promote the sexual desire or sensual arousal.

Areola:

Dark area surrounding the nipple.

Asexual:

A person who does not experience sexual attraction (or very little).

Bareback:

Having sex without a condom. This is risky and kind of dangerous as it increases your chances of STIs and/or pregnancy.

Bartholin glands:

Two glands that provide lubrication (wetness) to the vagina during sexual excitement (arousal, being turned on). Located in the inner labia on each side of the opening to the vagina.

BDSM:

Umbrella term for Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism {deriving pleasure from another's pain} and Masochism {self-defeating or demeaning} (SM).

Bisexual:

Sexually, romantic and/or physical attraction to both male and women.

Blow job:

{Fellatio} Oral sex performed on a male.

Blue balls:

Slang for uncomfortable — but not dangerous (not a medical condition) - feeling in the penis/testicles that may occur (due to increased blood and gland pressure) after extreme stimulation without ejaculation.

Body image:

Attitudes and feelings a person has about their own perceived body type and how other must see it.

Boner:

Slang for an erect penis [hard on].

Bondage:

Physical restraint for sexual stimulation. Participants may use rope, chain, scarves, ties, pantyhose, leather straps, or other restraining devices.

Brazillian:

Completely removing a woman's pubic hair. To a lesser degree personal grooming, trimming, shaving or waxing of the pubic hair that grows around the sex organ.

Bush:

{Pubic hair} Hair that grows around the sex organs.

Butt plug:

Sex toy that goes in the anus. It's designed to stay in place with a broad middle and tapered to a flared base.

Canoodle:

Showing strong feelings of sexual attraction or love, or relating to sexual desire.

Cervical cap:

Cup shaped reusable barrier method birth control.

Cervix:

The lower part of the uterus in the female reproductive system.

Circumcision:

The removal of the foreskin of the penis to reveal the head. The procedure typically happens when the boy is a baby, although it can sometimes be performed during adulthood for medical reasons, religious reasons, or just because a man wants it.

Cisgender:

Denoting or relating to a person whose self-identity conforms with the gender that corresponds to their biological sex.

Clitoral hood:

Flap of skin formed by the inner labia that covers and protects the clitoris.

Clitoris:

[Clit] Female sex organ including a bundle of nerve endings located at the top of the vulva and wraps around the vaginal opening. It has the sole function of expressing orgasms to the woman.

Climax:

[Cum] To reach sexual peak and orgasm.

Coitus:

Sex in which the penis enters the vagina. Also called "vaginal sex" or "vaginal intercourse."

Cock ring:

A ring or elastic band worn around the base of the penis, or at the base of the scrotum to enhance erection or prolong performance. Vibrating versions are used to increase stimulation of both partners.

Condom:

[Rubber] Thin, stretchy tubes worn on the penis during sex. Mostly made from latex or plastics (like polyurethane and polyisoprene). Condoms are an over-the-counter barrier method of birth control that also provide some protection from STDs with one exception - lambskin condoms don't protect against STDs.

Copulation:

Vaginal sex, or sometimes sexual activity in general.

Cosplay:

Short for "costume play" and refers too dressing up as one of your favorite characters from pop culture and taking on the persona of that character.

Cowgirl:

A sex position where you put your legs on the outside of your partner's hips and face them.

Cream pie:

The non-dessert definition is when semen visibly drips out of a vagina or anus after ejaculation during sex.

Cremaster reflex:

The automatic response of the cremaster muscle, which elevates the testicles when exposed to cold or stimulation.

Crura:

Internal extensions of the clitoris or penis that attaches to the pubic bone.

Cunnilingus:

[Eating Out, Going Down] Oral sex performed on a female clitoris, vagina and areas surrounding the vulva. Performed with the tongue, lips, teeth, nose and by sucking.

Cum:

{Ejaculate}; the sperm - and containing fluid that comes out of the penis during an orgasm. Also slang saying to "have an orgasm" as in "here it comes".

Cum shot:

A term used in pornography referring to the moment a man ejaculates, usually on his partner, where the semen can easily be seen.

Cybersex:

[Sexting] Sexual encounters that take place remotely; via phone (phone sex), online, using video cams, e-mail, or instant messaging.

Date rape:

Forced sexual contact from someone the victim knows or is on a date.\ Also called "acquaintance rape".

Deep throating:

A blow job technique where the giver puts as much of the penis into their mouth as they can (sometimes the whole penis) which can sometimes cause gagging or even vomiting.

Dental dam:

A thin, piece of latex provides limited protection against spread of STDs {STIs} when placed over the vulva or anus during oral sex.

Diaphragm:

A contraceptive device that sits at the opening of your cervix to block sperm.

Dildo:

A penis-shaped (or stylized) sex toy used to stimulate the vagina, clitoris, or anus (may contain a vibration motor).

Dominance and Submission:

Sexual behaviors, customs, and rituals where one person has control and the other surrenders submissively.

Douche:

A spray of water, medication, or cleanser, which goes into the vagina.

Drag queen:

A cross-dresser who exaggerates female dress and behaviors. Some drag queens might identify as transgender.

Drag king:

A cross-dresser who exaggerates male behaviors and. Some drag kings might identify as transgender.

Eating out:

{Cunnilingus} Oral sex performed on a female clitoris, vagina and areas surrounding the vulva. Performed with the tongue, lips, teeth, nose and by sucking.

Edging:

Refers to delaying an orgasm for as long as possible with the goal of having an ultimately more intense climax.

Ejaculation (Female):

[Squirting] The release of fluid out of the urethra during intense sexual excitement or orgasm. The fluid comes from the Skene's glands, which are located from the vulva near the opening of the urethra.

Ejaculation (Male):

The moment when semen spurts out of the opening of the urethra in the glans of the penis.

Ejaculatory inevitability:

The moment during sex or masturbation when it becomes impossible to stop ejaculation. It happens when the prostate begins to contract and pulse out seminal fluid. Also called “point of no return”.

Endorphin:

A hormone that keeps pain away.

Erection:

[Hard on] Engorged erect penis.

Erogenous zones:

Any area of the body that's sensitive to sensual touch, or feels sexual. They are all over the body; some are just more sensitive than others and vary by individuals.

Erotic:

Sensually stimulating to the senses and sexually arousing.

Erotica:

Literature, art or other media that is meant to be sexually arousing.

Exhibitionists:

People who expose their bodies in public places.

Face-sitting:

When a woman or man dangles their genitals over their partner’s mouth to receive oral sex.

Facial:

When referring to the sex definition of a facial, it's when a penis-haver ejaculates semen onto their partner's face.

Fetish:

A compulsion of sexual desire or gratification of an abnormal degree, linked to nonsexual material, object, action, or a part of the body; such as a foot.

Felatio:

[Blow Job] Oral sex performed on a male penis.

Fingering:

When someone uses their fingers to stimulate their partner's clitoris and/or vagina in order to bring them to orgasm, or to be used as foreplay.

Fisting:

Putting several fingers or a hand into the vagina or anus of a sex partner.

Fondling:

Touching someone in a sexual way.

Foot fetish:

A sexual interest in feet. A person with a foot fetish may be aroused by touching, licking, rubbing, kissing, sucking, and massaging of feet.

Foot job:

Similar to hand jobs, but involves using feet rather than hands to rub and stimulate a partner's penis.

Foreplay:

Sensual starting of intimacy such as; kissing, rubbing, stroking, caressing, touching, fondling, etc., that is typically a precursor to further sexual activity. Foreplay prolongs enhances and increases sexual excitement and pleasure.

Foreskin:

A tube of skin that covers and protects the glans (head) of the penis, and pulls back when the penis becomes erect. A circumcised penis has had the foreskin removed.

Frenulum:

On the vulva, it's the highly sensitive tissue where the inner labia join below the glans of the clitoris. On the penis, it's the highly sensitive, triangular piece of skin just below the glans (head).

Frission:

(French for 'shiver') is a sensation somewhat like shivering, usually caused by stimuli other than cold. It is typically expressed as an overwhelming emotional response combined with goosebumps (piloerection).

Frottage:

[Dry humping] Body rubbing with clothes on for sensual stimulation and usually simulating intercourse.

Gender:

The biological sex determined at birth by the existence of male or female visible reproductive organs, or confirmed with DNA testing.

Genitals:

External sex and reproductive organs, the female's vulva, or the male's penis and scrotum.

Glans:

The rounded part forming the end of the penis (glans penis) or clitoris (glans clitoridis).

Golden shower:

Also called "water sports" and refers to a sex act involving urine. This can mean peeing on your partner, in front of your partner, near your partner, or having your partner pee on/near/in front of you.

Gonads:

The organs that produce reproductive cells - the female ovaries and male testes.

Hand job:

Using the hand to rub, massage and stimulate someone's penis.

Hermaphrodite:

A person or animal having both male and female sex organs.

Herpes:

A common STD caused by two different but similar viruses: herpes simplex virus type 1 (HSV-1) and herpes simplex virus type 2 (HSV-2). Both kinds can make blistery sores show up on and around the genitals or mouth.

Heterosexual:

Being attracted to people of the opposite gender.

Horny:

Wanting to have sex or for being sexually aroused.

Hot flashes / Hot flushes:

A sudden, sometimes intense feeling of heat in the face or upper body that happens pre or during menopause.

Hymen:

(Often referred to as the 'cherry') A membrane at the entrance to a woman's vagina. This membrane can break or tear during first intercourse, using a tampon, while riding a bike or you can just be born without one.

Impotence:

A man's inability to achieve or maintain an erection.

Incest:

Sexual activity between members of the same family.

Infatuation:

Intense, usually short-lived, emotional passion or attraction to another person, usually without having a mutual relationship.

Infidelity:

Failing to keep a promise to be monogamous, usually in the context of a marriage.

Intercourse:

Sexual activity in which the penis goes into the vagina (vaginal intercourse) or the anus (anal intercourse).

Intimacy:

The closeness you feel when you share your private and personal self with someone else.

Kinky:

Unusual sexual behavior (perverse, abnormal, deviant, unconventional, unnatural, degenerate, depraved, perverted) that is outside cultural norms, or former teachings. Something society or culture says you shouldn't do or talk about. Often past kinks become the norm of the future.

Kegel exercises:

The tightening and releasing of the muscles that stop urination in order to prevent and improve urinary incontinence, improve sexual sensation, and aid vaginal muscle tone and tightness.

Lesbian:

A woman who's sexually or romantically attracted to women.

Labia:

[Lips] The labia of the vulva that surround the clitoris and the openings to the urethra and vagina. The inner lips are called "labia minora".

Labia majora:

The human sex drive or desire for sexual activity. Levels can vary based on many factors and points of life.

Libido:

Failing to keep a promise to be monogamous, usually in the context of a marriage.

Love:

A strong caring and attachment for someone else. It comes in many forms and levels. There can be love for romantic close friends, parents children, and pets.

Lube / Sexual lubricant:

A water-based, silicone-based, oil-based product, or natural substance used to increase slipperiness and reduce friction during sex.

Lust:

Sexual desire for someone, or visually stimulated.

Male menopause / Andropause:

The gradual decline in sexual vigor as men age, due to decreasing levels of testosterone. Some report the same symptoms that women experience.

Masturbate:

Touching and stimulating one's own body and genitals for sexual pleasure. Mutual masturbation is when people masturbate in each other’s presence.

Menage a trois:

Three people in a sexual encounter. Also called a [threesome or threeway].

Menopause:

A woman's menstruation stops because of hormonal changes, usually between the ages of 45 and 55, but sometimes earlier.

Menstruation:

The monthly flow of blood, fluid, and tissue out of the uterus that usually lasts from 3 to 7 days. Often called a period.

Mile-High Club:

Refers collectively to anyone who has ever had sex on a plane.

MILF:

An acronym that stands for "Mother I’d Like to Fuck."

Monogamy:

A committed relationship when two people decide intimate only with each other.

Mons veneris:

The fleshy, triangular mound above the vulva or penis that’s covered with pubic hair in adults. It cushions the pubic bone.

Mooning:

Exposing [Flashing] one's butt to other people.

Morning wood:

Having an erect penis when waking up. Men can have can have several erections at night as part of their sleep cycle. Very often, when they wake up, they're still erect. Also called {nocturnal penile tumescence}.

Motorboating:

The act of putting your face in between someone's breasts and moving your head back and forth quickly while making a raspberry sound with your tongue and lips (like the sound of a motorboat).

Multiple orgasms:

The occurrence of more than one orgasm within one sexual experience.

Open relationship / Polyamory

When 2 people in an intimate relationship or marriage agree that they can have other sexual or romantic partners.

Oral sex:

Sex involving the mouth with the genitals or anus including cunnilingus, anilingus, and fellatio.

Orgasm:

Sexual climax; characterized by strong feelings of pleasure and normally by ejaculation of semen by the male and by involuntary vaginal contractions in the female.

Orgy:

Sex involving many random multiple partners.

Outercourse / Petting:

Sexual activity that doesn't include penetrative vaginal, oral or anal insertion activity.

Pansexual:

Sexual, romantic and/or physical attraction to people regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

Pearl necklace:

When someone with a penis ejaculates onto their partner's neck or chest. The term comes from the drops of semen that are said to look like the individual pearls on a strand of beads.

Pegging:

When someone without a penis performs anal intercourse on their partner with the help of a strap-on dildo. Usually between hetero partners.

Petting / Outercourse:

Penis:

[Cock, Dick] Male reproductive and sex organ. The penis’ spongy tissue engorges with blood during sexual excitement, a process known as erection (getting hard). The urinary tract is blocked during an erection. Urine and semen pass through the penis.

Performance anxiety:

Fear of being unable to please a sex partner.

Perineum:

[Taint] The area of skin between the genitals and the anus in both men and women.

Period sex:

Having sex while you menstruate.

Petting / Outercourse:

[Dry Humping] Touching and caressing a partner's breasts, butt or genitals in a sexual way (possibly through or under their clothing).

Phallic:

Resembling or representing a phallus or erect penis.

Pheromones:

Odors naturally given off to attract others sexually.

Pillow princess:

Someone who likes to lie back and let their boo do most of the physical work during sex.

Piloerection:

[Goosebumps] is involuntary erection or bristling of hairs and follicles due to a sympathetic reflex usually triggered by cold, shock, fright or sensory stimulation.

Plateau:

The stage of sexual arousal in which a person's sexual excitement peaks and may level out as approaching orgasm. The third stage of the sexual response cycle.

Platonic:

Non-sexual relationship.

Polyamory / Polyamorous:

Having separate sexual or romantic relationships with more than 1 person at a time with the consent of all people involved.

Pompoir:

Using vaginal muscles in different ways to stimulate the penis during intercourse.

Pre-ejaculate

[Pre-Cum] Cowper’s glands produce pre-ejaculate, a clear fluid that prepares the urethra for ejaculation. Pre-ejaculate also reduces friction in the urethra, making it easier for semen to pass through.

Pubic hair:

Hair that grows around the sex organs.

Prostate:

A gland that produces fluid which helps sperm move. The prostate can be very sensitive to the touch, and many people enjoy stimulation of the prostate for sexual pleasure.

Queef:

The fluttering sound made when air is released from the vagina. Air is often pushed into the vagina during vaginal sex or repeated penetration with fingers, or sex toys.

Queer:

Historically a derogatory term to identify LGBTQ people, but now used to represent people who identify with a sexual minority.

Quicky:

Speedy, rushed sex, often without foreplay or cuddling.

Rectum

The final straight portion (less than 5") of the large intestine, just prior to the anus.

Reverse-cowgirl

A sex position that's basically regular cowgirl (you facing your partner and straddling them with knees on either side of their hips), but backward, so you're facing their feet instead.

Rimming

Also called a rim job, tossed salad, and analingus; refers to oral sex involving mouth-to-anus contact.

Role-play:

Acting out a sexual fantasy with a partner, usually with costumes, outfits, or uniforms, etc.

Rusty trombone:

The act of performing a simultaneous rim job and hand job.

Sadomasochism (S/M or S&M):

is the giving or receiving pleasure from acts involving the receipt or infliction of pain or humiliation.

Scrotum:

A male's sac of skin, divided into 2 parts, that holds the two testicles (testes) oval organs that produce sperm [referred to as the "Balls"].

Semen:

[Cum] Fluid containing sperm that's ejaculated from the penis during male orgasm. Semen is composed of fluid from the seminal vesicles (two small organs located beneath the bladder and connected to the urethra), fluid from the prostate, and sperm from the testes.

Sex drive:

The urge and desire to have sex. Also called libido.

Sexting:

Sending sexual text messages or images.

Sexual identity:

How a person thinks of themselves in terms of who they find themselves sexually and romantically attracted.

Sexual response cycle:

Four-stage physiological responses to sexual stimulation consisting of; Excitement, Plateau, Orgasm, Resolution.

Sexually transmitted infection (STI):

Formerly STD - Infections that are passed from one person to another during vaginal, anal, or oral sex, or sexual skin-to-skin contact, or fluid exchange. Commonly known as sexually transmitted disease.

Sexuality:

A person's self sexual identity, sexual preferences, and how it interact with emotional, physical, social, and spiritual life.

Shaft:

Erectile tissue and nerves that's shaped and hardened by stimulated engorgement, to form a column like formation the of the penis [Boner] and outer clitoris.

Shocker:

When someone sticks their pointer and middle fingers inside someone's vagina, and then "surprises" them with a pinky finger in their anus, hence "shocking" them.

Shrimping:

The act of sucking on your partner's toes.

Sixty-nine / 69:

Sexual position of simultaneous, mutually performing oral sex.

Snowballing:

A sexual act where a penis-haver ejaculates into their partner's mouth, then open-mouth kisses their partner, passing the semen back and forth into each other's mouths.

Spooning:

When two people lie side-by-side, butt-to-back. The small spoon is the person on the inside, and the big spoon is on the outside.

Speculum:

A plastic or metal medical instrument used to separate the walls of the vagina for examination if the vagina and cervix.

Squirting:

When fluid comes out of a woman's vagina, often accompanying orgasm.

Strap-on:

A dildo that can be attached to a person (or strapless dildo, which both ends are inserted) to use for vaginal, anal, or oral sex.

Swinging:

A lifestyle of non-monogamy where sexual relations occur outside the established couple relationship, which are typically only for the purpose of sex and not for a romantic relation.

Taboo:

A behavior that is outside cultural norms, or former teachings (perverse, abnormal, deviant, unconventional, unnatural, degenerate, depraved, perverted). Something society or culture says you shouldn't do or talk about. Often past taboos become the norm of the future.

Tantric sex:

Tantra is now synonymous with "spiritual sex" or "sacred sexuality", a belief that sex should be practiced as a sacred act capable of elevating its participants to a higher spiritual plane.

Teabagging:

When a man places their scrotum into the mouth or onto the face or forehead of another person, usually while standing or kneeling over that person.

Testosterone:

An androgen hormone produced in the male testes and in smaller amounts in the female ovaries. Generally associated with masculine characteristics.

Threesome:

When three people have sex with each other simultaneously.

Transvestite:

[cross-dressing] Person who dresses as the binary opposite gender expression.

Tribadism:

Tribadism or tribbing, commonly known by its scissoring position, a form of sexual activity between women in which the genitals are stimulated by being rubbed against one another.

Vagina:

Elastic muscular canal that extends from the outer vulva to the cervix. One place sexual penetration (by a penis, finger, sex toy, etc.) can happen.

Venus butterfly (technique):

A sex act that involves both oral stimulation of the genitalia (cunnilingus) and manual stimulation (fingering) at the same time.

Vibrator:

An electrically powered sex toy that applies vibrations to parts of the body externally, or by penetration, or both, for sexual pleasure.

Voyeurism:

Sexual stimulation practice that involves secretly watching another person in private moments; sleeping, undress, or engage in sexual behavior.

Vulva:

The female external parts of the sex organs including the clitoris, labia (majora and minora) [Lips], opening to the vagina (introitus), opening to the urethra, and two Bartholin's glands.
Slange terms: Bits, Clam, Girlie parts, Honey pot, Kitty, Lips, Muff, Taco, Vag, Vajayjay, Vertical smile
Not socially accepted: (bedroom names if approved): Camel toe, Cunt, Gash, Pussy, Rooster Comb (vulva outie), Snatch